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Who likes a good moan? 

By  Lysette Offley

We all like a good moan now and again, don’t we?

Who likes a good moan? Photo of child pouting.We do like a good moan, don’t we?

Well, you just might change your mind after this!

When I was at school, which of course was a while ago now, we were taught that the brain stops developing and growing at early adulthood, whereupon you’ve got your full complement of brain cells. It’s downhill all the way subsequently, as the brain cells begin to die off one by one.

And faster if you don’t use them!

I don’t know where they got that idea from, because fortunately it turns out, it’s all a load of tosh!

It’s true that brain do continue to prune away the cells and connections that aren’t used regularly, but they continue to grow and reshape themselves if you give them reason to.

You’ve maybe heard the expression, “Synapses that fire together wire together.”

Who likes a good moan? Illustration of synapseWhenever you have a thought, a neurochemical shoots across from one brain cell to the next, across the synaptic gap. As it does so, it builds a bridge over which an electric signal can cross, carrying that thought of yours.

Every time an electrical signal crosses, the gap between brain cells narrows, decreasing the distance that electrical charge has to cross. In other words the brain is rewiring itself, physically changing its circuitry to make it easier and more likely that that thought will happen again. Each time you have that thought, it becomes more likely you have that thought the next time, and the next time, and the time after that.

This is how thoughts, just like behaviour, can become a habit, and happen automatically.

This can be a good thing, such as practising gratitude. Deliberately counting your blessings, makes you a happier person.

But if you practise having bad habits and unhelpful thoughts, they instead will become more likely.

What’s that got to do with having a good moan? Well, perhaps you can hear it coming…

The more you moan and complain, the more your brain helps you find more to moan about, providing you with a plethora of negative thoughts about where you are and what you’re doing.

Being consistently negative begins to skew you and your personality towards a negative outlook, with a propensity for having a good moan, and a talent for negative thinking.

If your own company isn’t depressing enough for you, spending time with negative people will have the same deleterious effect on your brain wiring. Blame it on your mirror neurons – the parts of the brain which imitate another’s emotions in an attempt to identify and relate to them. We call this empathy.

But if you spend time with negative people, you will become more negative in your turn.

Who likes a good moan? Illustration of brain cellsComplaining is bad to your physical health too. Getting angry and ranting about it weakens your immune system, raises your blood pressure and increases your risk of heart disease, osteoporosis, obesity and diabetes. And that’s just for starters.

Being angry all the time is the best predictor of heart disease. It outstrips smoking, overweight and other usual suspects.

The cortisol released with the stress that you create by having a good moan, complaining and venting makes you stupid too! It interferes with learning and memory.

I’m assuming that while your brain is busily rewiring itself for negativity, you no longer have the usual resources available to you for creating new connections associated with memory and constructive thinking. There’s a limit to how much action can be going on in your brain at any one time.

If you know that pessimism and negativity have become habit with you, don’t despair.

After all, if you make a concerted effort to develop new thinking habits, your brain will rewire itself all over again to make those new habits stick.

How to combat pessimism

Research shows that writing down just three things you’re grateful for each day for 21 days in a row significantly increases your level of optimism, which stays put for the next six months.

That’s a lot of gain for very little effort!

 

Cortisol: Public enemy #1 –v- The Science of Happiness

“Your thoughts reshape your brain, and thus are changing a physical construct of reality.”

The Science of Happiness: Why complaining is literally killing you.

“Chronic stress and elevated cortisol levels also increase risk for depression, mental illness, and lower life expectancy.“

 

You can rewire your brain

 

Who likes a good moan? - photo of book: The Brain That Changes Itself

The Brain That Changes Itself

by Dr Norman Doidge

Stories about the capabilities of the human brain and the ability of all of us to change.

 

 

 

Who likes a good moan? Photo of book: Rewire your brainRewire Your Brain

by Dr John B Arden

How to rewire your brain to improve virtually every aspect of your life–based on the latest research in neuroscience and psychology on neuroplasticity and evidence–based practices

Lysette Offley


With 40 years of experience, Lysette Offley is a Memory and Mindset Coach to women and men at the top of their game in the Financial Services Industry who recognise the value of continual personal and professional development and support to achieve a healthy work-life balance, along with satisfaction and fulfilment.

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  1. I had not thought of this before but we have always known that “practise makes perfect”. Of course it does but I now know how it physically happens . It’s a bit like clearing the drains to make the system work faster and, of course, quicker or perhaps fitting an extra drain or two or straightening out the run of the pipes.

    1. Ha ha! You’re right! Not to dwell too much on the sewer of the mind (!), the brain actually clears out the day’s metabolic waste during sleep. It’s a different process from forging new pathways, of course. It’s always staggered me just how complex and well-organised (usually!) our brains and bodies are. So much going on – and automatically too. Good job we don’t have to consciously orchestrate this lot!

      1. Hello Lysette!!!!

        Wonderful article!! I am sincerely hoping this old dog can learn some new tricks.

        Am a bit depressed lately with “empty nest syndrome”. Your article was very helpful — showing many reasons why not to feel sorry for myself.

        Thanks so much for this very timely information.

        Much Love, Julie G

        1. Hey Julie – good to hear from you. Thank you for leaving a comment. It must be very quiet at home, when you’ve been used to the boys (and girlfriends) being around for so long… All part of life’s rich tapestry (or so they say!!) Lots of love xx

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