Category: Emotional intelligence
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Disappointment & how do you cope with it?
We’ve all been there. That horrible slump felt in the body, following the excitement and anticipation of something you’re looking forward to… dashed by new and unexpected information telling us, it ain’t happening after all. Urgh! It can feel like a punch in the guts – a real physical sensation – and not one we enjoy! (She says, with…
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Searching for happiness? You’re looking in the wrong place!
There’s a story I remember from my childhood that’s part of my family culture. I don’t know where it came from originally, but I think it probably originated as one of my Dad’s bad jokes! Sorry, Dad! 🙂 OK, here we go… A policeman sees a drunk man searching for something under a streetlight and asks…
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How to understand yourself and others
Want to understand yourself and others better? Ever asked yourself, why do they do that? Thanks to Tanya Ces Maneiro and Vanessa Hunt for flagging up a very useful video about what drives our behaviour. But first this! Maybe we can all get along OK! Back to the plot… The secret to understanding people and why…
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What have leprechauns and happiness got in common?
Is your ‘being’ well? Well-being seems to be all the rage these days. We all need it, but some of us don’t know how to get it. If you want more of it but don’t know where to find it, you will be reassured to know that you can indeed develop the behaviours and thinking…
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What makes you feel better?
Do you know what makes you feel better? Everyone needs a way to make themselves feel better; to regulate their mood and emotions. And thank goodness for that! What sort of a mess would be will be in otherwise? However, some strategies are healthier than others. For example, food, alcohol, shopping, gambling etc, etc may…
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Which tribe do you belong to?
Richard Bandler (co-founder of NLP) famously asks, “How much happiness can you stand?” How would you answer that? And when asked what you do for fun, can you answer immediately or do you find yourself desperately trying to remember the last time you had any? (Fun, that is! Ha ha!) Are you, like so many…
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How to use your nose to eliminate stress!
Want to know how to eliminate stress with your nose? When we are in a state of stress, we can’t think straight. Use this technique to eliminate stress and enter the ideal learning state. The nose knows! You know when a particular smell transports you instantly to a childhood memory? It’s because the part of the…
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What would you give to achieve your goals?
What would you give to achieve your goals? Do you sometimes find that winter months seem to go on forever and that you’re just longing for better weather? Do you sometimes feel lethargic and unable to get going, even when you really, really want to achieve something? Need some tips for feeling happy? You’ve only…
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How to get happy in just 30 minutes
Feeling a bit under the weather? We like to moan about the weather, don’t we! Sometimes it seems back to front and upside down! One year August will be breaking all the records! For wettest summer month! Another, March will be the driest since records began. Having taught for 20 years in schools, I feel…
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How to shake off stress
Stress! Who needs it? Well, actually, we all do! But not all the time! We’ve evolved to use the stress response automatically, to respond appropriately to danger and keep us alive. However, we seem not to have evolved (yet) to let it go again after the moment has passed. It’s something we are realising is deadly…
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Ever had to rethink a strategy?
Caught with my pants down! Go on! Bet you’d have done the same… Making the most of the recent glorious weather and living on the river, on the day of the Summer Solstice, 2017 I cycled along the river to Reading for a routine checkup at the Royal Berks Hospital. I’ve been working so hard recently, that…
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How to get rid of depression
Depression – when you’re in it, it’s difficult to see that it’s a temporary situation, and that, “this too shall pass.” That’s the thing about depression, isn’t it? It’s reckoned that we’ve evolved to keep depression in the repertoire because it is so effective at keeping us small and protective of ourselves, and well away…